Fasting Is Not for Everybody
He started fasting when he was eleven and stopped when he turned 31. Wael comes from one of Cairo's conservative suburbs and from a family where fasting in Ramadan was taken for granted. But this year is his third Ramadan without it. "The last couple of years before I finally decided I wasn't going to fast anymore, I'd be less strict about it. I sometimes took a day off from fasting. But then when I finally stopped, no one knew, except my wife," say Wael.
"I'd feel self-conscious about people knowing. It would raise too many questions: 'Wael, what has happened to your faith?' People would give unsolicited sermons about Islam, and I have no stomach for that. If I'm asked straight out, I try to come up with an answer that doesn't involve lying."
The vast majority of non-fasters who were born in Muslim families and still live in the Arab world abide by that one rule: not fasting is something that shouldn't be talked about. In some cases, the reasons for hiding it are obvious: many perceive their own version of Ramadan as a sin and a personal flaw. Few go as far as to question the very idea of fasting.
A ritual for the whole community
Mahmud, a 25-year-old Afghan living in Doha, stopped fasting during his teenage years. When he talks about Ramadan, however, it sounds as if he had to defend the concept even more passionately than a practising Muslim. "We are supposed to feel for those who are hungry every day. Whether you're a billionaire or a beggar, whether you're from Afghanistan or Somalia: you're doing the same thing. It's a ritual that brings people together as one big community", says Mahmud empathically.
His own lack of fasting has more to do with pragmatism, though. He says he can't stand being hungry and only keeps fasting when he's with his family – a family that conveniently lives thousands of kilometres away in Kabul, that is. Mahmud doesn't pray regularly, drinks alcohol and has pre-marital relationships, but he insists that Ramadan is "the one thing that keeps you a Muslim". "It is definitely a religious obligation. If someone says it's not part of religion, that is a huge sin. It's a much bigger sin than to deny what you're supposed to be doing rather than not doing it. I admit to a weakness and I admire those who fast," says Mahmud.
These days, he volunteers for night shifts at work to avoid having to hide in the bathroom for his daylight snacks. When he is surrounded by practising Muslims, he makes sure to act just like them. "Sometimes this is so tiring that when it comes to iftar, I look just as desperate as those who're fasting", he says. "I don't think anyone would ever suspect that I'm not."
Those who secretly resort to sips of water and undercover biscuits are usually dealt with indulgently. If one of them is caught in the act, the person who discovers them tends to have excuses at the ready: she's probably got her period or he's probably suffering from kidney problems or diabetes. "Interestingly enough, it is socially completely acceptable not to fast for medical reasons", says Wael. "That doesn't threaten the community and it doesn't call the ritual as such into question."
Not fasting: a social taboo
The social taboo comes into play when a person has no medical reason whatsoever not to fast and views not fasting as a matter of personal choice. "I remember one day my mother told us – in horror – that she had seen our neighbour eating in his garden. She said: 'He is a healthy, grown-up man! How come he's too weak to fast?' It would never occur to her that he may not be fasting simply because he has doubts about religion."
This where Wael's approach to Ramadan is fundamentally different from Mahmud's: while the latter would like to fast, Wael says he doesn't see the point of it. Not any more. "They say fasting helps to develop inner strength, that it brings you closer to God and that it teaches us to feel for the poor. These are the rationalizations of the ritual, but I think all those things can be developed in many different ways without fasting." Wael usually keeps these thoughts to himself. To him, not fasting is an individual choice, but a very private one.
For Ibtissame Lachgar, a 39-year-old psychotherapist from Rabat, this is not the case; she's one of the few people who speaks publicly about the subject and for whom not fasting has a political dimension too. Lachgar is one of two founders of a group called Mouvement alternatif pour les libertés individuelles (MALI), an organization that says it wants to fight for more individual rights in Morocco, among them the right to eat wherever and whenever a person wants – even during Ramadan. According to Moroccan law, publicly breaking the fast is punishable by up to six months in prison.
"They claim that 99 per cent of Moroccans fast. Officially, the 1 per cent who don't are Moroccan Jews, the only religious community that is recognized by the state", says Lachgar. "But among the 99 per cent who allegedly fast, there are lots of agnostics, atheists and Moroccans who have converted to other religions."
During Ramadan 2009, MALI activists announced on the Internet that they would publicly break the fast in a town between Rabat and Casablanca – away from passers-by, but still in public space. In the end, they never got to eat their sandwiches: about a hundred policemen were deployed to arrest them right at the train station. When the story turned into a public debate, Lachgar received both death threats and hate mail, but also a lot of support from Muslims who said they want fasting to be a matter of faith, not social control.
"What I find appalling is that a public institution like the police turns into a 'moral police'. If it's acceptable that the state monitors fasting in Ramadan, it would only be consistent if they also tried to control prayer and all other pillars of Islam. Thank God that's not where we're at in Morocco. But if it ever happens, we'll have turned into Saudi Arabia!", she says.
While many Arab countries have laws that make it compulsory to publicy abstain from eating during Ramadan, only a tiny minority of people across the region speak out against them. Most Moroccan media covering MALI's picnicking plans called it an "unnecessary provocation", some an outright attack on Islam. And many would ask: aren't there any more important problems to deal with?
"I take that point", says Lachgar, "but when people say there are other priorities, then why is somebody who doesn't fast treated like a criminal and viewed with more contempt than a real offender?"
One thing is certain: social pressure to fast has risen over the past two decades. Not observing Ramadan is now a more subversive act then it used to be. "In the mid-1990s", recalls Wael, "there were some guys in my village who would smoke publicly in Ramadan to show how manly they were. It was not only that they were so attached to cigarettes that they couldn't quit, but also that they were rebel enough to break the rules and endure the horrified looks of people in the neighbourhood."
How big of a social taboo it is differs from one country to another and one social network to another: while it's easy to find non-fasting Iraqis in exile, non-fasting Egyptians are a rare occurrence. Wael doesn't know of anyone in his surroundings except himself, not counting his non-Muslim friends.
Ibtissame Lachgar, on the other hand, is surrounded by quite a lot of Moroccan non-fasters. But all of them tend to feel out of place in their own society when Ramadan starts. "Religious identity is closely linked to the national, the entire collective identity. A Moroccan who doesn't consider himself Muslim is seen as a traitor to the entire community and the entire nation", she says. "It turns you into an apostate." This is why Wael's alienation from Ramadan is more than just breaking a rule. It's leaving behind an identity.
"If you don't do things that the group does or if you do things that the group doesn't approve of, then you ask yourself: who am I? If I have a completely different way of looking at things than the group I thought I was part of, then maybe I just don't belong to that group anymore."
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